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Who Do I Invite To My Baby Shower?

Baby showers have become a really big event over the past few years. In previous times, they were all rather small and intimate. Although now, you can still have a very small and intimate one, many are opting for the big grand event. This article will give suggestions for a little of both. You can find help with some suggestions for who you should invite to your baby shower for the big or small event. You will even find a few suggestions for the formal or informal event. Remember that your baby shower is just that YOUR shower so you can invite whomever you would like, and you can delete anyone off of the list that you please. Take a look at these suggestions below to help you get started on your list.

I recommend making your list from the most important to the least important. To do that, you need to decide if you are having an all-female baby shower or a co-ed baby shower. Once you make that decision, the rest is simple.

1. Mother & Sisters

Your mother and sisters will not necessarily need an invitation. This will depend on just how close you are. Sometimes you may speak to these people daily, and a simple text with the time and place may be sufficient, but all families aren’t that close. They may still want to be in attendance. Many families are spread across the country or even in another country and require a formal invitation. For that reason, you need to put them on the list. If, for no other reason, you need to include them in your headcount for food or venue numbers. Your mother or sisters may even be planning the shower, but still, let’s go ahead and make them first on the list, besides they are the most important people in the room beside you and baby.

2. Mother-in-Law & Sisters-in-Law

It is decent and proper to make sure that your in-laws get an invitation, whether you are close or not on the best of terms. Your significant other will be extremely proud of you. Make sure you include them in your list right below your mother and sisters, even if you do not expect them to attend. They are very important and should be included. If you have a co-ed shower, you should include your father-in-law as well as your sister-in-law’s husband. Ask for them to RSV, and that will give you a good count as to how many you can expect out of how many invitations you send out.

3. Girlfriends & Friends of the Father

You probably have no shortage of friends. Take into consideration how much space you have for your baby shower. If you have unlimited space and a ton of money for food, then the sky is the limit. If you have a fire code to abide by and a budget, then this is where some cuts can be made.

Start with your best friends and the ones who have been there for you. You may want to consider inviting the ones who you were there for the birth of their children or the ones who were there for your previous children if this isn’t your first rodeo. Childhood friends that are still around that you have kept in contact with are always a good choice. Friends that you and your significant other both know are great choices. Choosing friends who have been supportive in times of need often adds a hint of goodness to your baby shower. If you have a lot of friends, take your time and make a list of all of your friends, and then narrow it down. When you are done, use those.

4. Church Members

The church is our community support system, so it is only fair that we have some church members at such a special event. We may need someone to pray over the food or bless the event. Make sure that the activities that will be occurring are appropriate for inviting the church members that you choose. You do not want to serve drinks to guests although you won’t be drinking, you invite your pastor, and he or she does not approve. This is a tricky one, but it has happened many times in many places. If you invite church members, give a heads up as to what events will be occurring so that they can choose whether to attend or not. They will not feel out of place, and they can not judge if they decide to come still and be a part of your special day.

5. Classmates & Colleagues

You may have gone to several colleges, a bunch of schools, and worked a ton of jobs over the years, but there are still a few people you want to come to share in your joy. Think about who means something to you and would like to be a part of your day. Special relationships are made in those settings, so take the opportunity to decide who has made enough impact in your life over the years that they deserve an invitation to your baby shower. This is a great time to have a co-ed baby shower because you most likely have encountered both men and women in this setting, as well as your significant other.


As the time grows near to giving birth, a baby shower can be overwhelming. Of course, you don’t want to forget anyone important. It can be embarrassing when you leave someone out, and then you see them months later, and they inquire about their invitation. We are all human, and mistakes will happen but consider these people when making your list:

  • Mother & Sisters
  • Mother-in-Law & Sisters-in-Law
  • Girlfriends & Friends of the Father
  • Church Members
  • Classmates & Colleagues

By checking off these few people, you will be sure to get the most important people an invitation. Now all you will have to do is sit back, relax, and wait for your bundle of joy to arrive.

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