The time has come to hire a person to watch over your son or daughter. You want someone reliable, trustworthy, and above all, safe. Part of being a better parent is having time away so that you can get more engaged with yourself or your spouse. But, this comes with a challenge. What are the warning signs of a bad babysitter? The tips below will help you isolate and identify the signs your babysitter is not getting the job done.
Is your child afraid of the babysitter?
It is common for a child to be a bit apprehensive the first time you have someone else come into your life and watch them. They might even show sadness or anger. After a while, and a few more visits, they should warm up nicely to the babysitter. If they show fear consistently, you will want to take a detailed inquiry into the possible reasons behind your child’s fear (https://kidsit.com). It could be signs that you have a bad babysitter.
The child resents the babysitter out of fear. If this happens, calmly sit with the babysitter and ask probing questions.
Does your babysitter act secretive?
A good babysitter is honest and forthright with information. They will tell you every detail of how they engaged with your child. They will inform you of every activity, snacks, nap time, and any other relevant factor. If they are sheepish with this information, it is cause for concern. They should not hide things from you; they are entrusted with monitoring the activities of well being of your child. Take time to ask questions to the babysitter. Make up a journal and have them write in it exactly what they did with your child or children. A good babysitter will have plenty of information to share, whereas a bad babysitter will try to hide things from you.
Does your babysitter ignore instructions?
Nobody likes to be ignored. This is especially true when it comes to matters of the most precious persons in your life, your children. A babysitter who ignores instructions simply does not have the welfare of your child in mind.
This kind of behavior is unacceptable on any level. A serious talk with your babysitter should remedy the situation. If your child is old enough, they could even tell you if the babysitter does what is expected of him or her. When approaching the babysitter, remember not to be aggressive, but inquisitive. If the age of the babysitter is under 18, involve the parents of the babysitter to sit in when you ask the questions (https://www.verywellfamily.com).
How many accidents does your babysitter have?
As a parent, you know that there are bound to be accidents. But what if that number of accidents is on the heavy side? This could be a sign that your babysitter is not paying attention to your child. The babysitter is as responsible as the parent, and if they are not watching the child closely, accidents are inevitable.
However, if the accidents are consistently happening and to the degree that your child is getting hurt, this means the babysitter needs to answer as to what they do instead of watching your child. Are they on the computer? Are they on their phone? These distractions mean that a bad babysitter cares more about what is going on in their life, rather than what is happening with your child.
Is your babysitter usually late?
Picture this: You’re getting ready to go out with your spouse. It has been a long time since you were able to go on a date. You have dinner reservations at 7:30. The babysitter was supposed to be there at 7:00, but they are a no show.
Does this happen a lot? If so, it is time to have a serious conversation with the babysitter about punctuality. Like a regular job, the babysitter needs to be there on time. A bad babysitter will make excuses about being late. Once or twice is probably acceptable, but if the babysitter is habitually late, it may be time to cut ties (https://www.redbookmag.com).
Has your babysitter ever stole from you?
This warning sign might be the most obvious. If you have a bad babysitter who is stealing, you need to involve the authorities. Do not confront the babysitter as it may be perceived as a hostile act. Simply take the high road and contact the police. Give a good description of the items. Evidence is of the utmost importance. You do not want to present a case to the authorities without good evidence that the bad babysitter is stealing from you.
Does your babysitter invite people over without your permission?
If your child is old enough, they will gleefully tell you what your bad babysitter is doing. They won’t hide the facts from you. If your babysitter is having people over to your house without your permission, then you will want to lay down the law and tell them it is unacceptable.
If it happens again, get rid of that bad babysitter and look for someone new. Finally, if your babysitter does not engage with you or disrespects your parenting style, they need to find a new job. Your family is the most important thing in your life; a babysitter who does not respect that does not deserve the job.
Furthermore, the people they invite more will more than likely not know who you are, and you won’t know them. Do you want people you don’t know to be in your home? This bad babysitter activity is a Pandora’s Box waiting to be opened.
When you have a good babysitter, you can trust they will take care of your children while you have some “you time” or together time with your significant other. The key is communication; you want to make sure the babysitter knows and understands your expectations. By establishing a strong foundation, you should have success with the babysitter. Most importantly, your child will be happy and safe.