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Toddler Won’t Hold Hands? When to Worry.

Are you having trouble with your toddler not wanting to hold your hand? Here are a few ideas!

With these simple tips, you will figure out a way to get your toddler to understand why they should hold your hand.

Practice hand-holding somewhere safe.

Some parents have chosen to start practicing safe hand-holding at home, which allows your child to feel safe while learning something new.

Stay focused, stay positive but always remember to take the time to make it fun for you and your child. Teaching your child something new might seem like a hard task.

As long as you make it fun and entertaining for your child, it won’t be hard at all.

Find ways of explaining the importance of holding your hand.

Find a strong way of demonstrating a strategy of why your child should hold your hand. Stay focused on it even if you must resort to explaining to your child a harsh way of why they should always be holding your hand.

Explain to your child the dangers of not holding your hand, especially in Town or crossing the street, even if you create a game for your child to remember to hold your hand while out and about.

Some parents often recommend playing or creating games to teach your child positive ways of holding your hand while out in public.

Tell your child about what could happen if your child decides to bolt out in traffic as well as if your child runs away from you while crossing the road.

Create fun hand-holding games for your toddler.

You can come up with a game that makes your child have to focus on their hands while crossing the road or walking around in the stores.

Have your child search for certain objects or colors while walking around with you to keep them content.

You can also create a reward game for your child. Which only works if your child holds your hand the whole time.

You can also come up with creative ways or games to get your child to hold your hand properly.

Some creative ideas might include the string game, where your child must hold on to the string while they cross the street.

With the string game, you can have the string tied to you, which requires your child to hold your hand.

Explain the consequences of not holding your hands.

If by chance, you can figure out a way of explaining the harsh side of what could happen if your child does not listen.

As well as if your child does not hold your hand while out and about. Teach them the positive factors of always holding your hand while you two are out walking around.

Show them what could happen to them if they do not hold your hand, which might be deadly.

Be sure assertive when explaining the consequences to your child and stay serious without making the topic seem like a joke.

Explain to your child you would not want anyone to run away with them if they do not hold your hand while out in public.

Tell them if they do not this to happen to them, then they should always hold your hand no matter what.

Have a friend step in.

You can also have a situation set up where a friend of yours will come up to your child.

Have them try to walk away with them to test how well your child understood you. If, by chance, your child does not walk or run away from the stranger.

Then you might have to find a different way to explain the consequences to your child. But if your child does run away from the stranger towards you.

Then you can finally gain confidence with what you explained to your child and know they will be safe while out and about with you.

When you find out how well your child reacts, you get to see if your child knows the difference. Then you’ll be able to see if your child should receive a reward.

Or if you’ll have to explain the importance of always holding your hand more simply.

If you still have problems with your child not holding your hand…

Even if your child has not understood the importance of holding your hand at all times, you can try other ideas, which might include having your child stay home with the other parent.

Another idea would be not rewarding your child until they followed the game rules.

Some parents have had to resort to having their child wear a backpack with a detachable strap—this backpack, which allows you to have control over your child.

By having your child wear a backpack, you will be able to walk with your child easier. This does not allow your child to run off easily.

Other ways to try and get your child to hold your hand might include having to place your child back in their buggy. As well as having to cut shopping trips short or just going home as a consequence.

Reward your child for holding your hand!

As your child begins to hold your hand more and more, you can start rewarding them for being good and for being a good listener.

The reward is up to you just as long as your child is listening to you and holding your hand while out in public, your main issue is complete.

You can reward your child with a special trip to the ice cream shop, to the store for them to pick out a toy, or they can spend time with a friend if they ask.

Making the learning process of always holding your hand easier and simple, your child will respond positively and begin to react positively.

Other forms of a reward can include buying your child’s favorite dinner meal, buying your child a gift they’ve been asking for, or receiving money for treats or toys.

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