Good manners are what separates a toddler that is loved from one that is intensely disliked. Good manners can take you very far in this world, even when you don’t have a lot of talent or experience. Many people will often value what good manners brings to the table rather than skill. They would prefer to work with someone that they like and understand rather than work with someone that might be more talented, but they are not as friendly and personable as the other person. Making sure your toddler is mannerly is, therefore, essential to being a good parent. You want your toddler to say please and thank you and to apologize when he or she is wrong. Making sure your toddler has these behavioral habits should be a strong priority for you as a parent.
Many parents think that their child will pick these things up automatically, but that is not the case. Your toddler takes a lot of behavior cues from you, and you can change certain bad behaviors early by focusing on them and teaching your toddler right from wrong. Putting in the work now to teach a toddler will help you raise a better person in the future. You will raise someone that has a lot of friends and can survive in this world. Your toddler will also have the coping skills to solve problems. The skills they build will make sure they can work towards successful goals. As a parent, these habits are what you should be working to make sure your toddler takes with them. Here are other tips to make sure your toddler develops proper manners for the future.
Making Sure Your Toddler Acts Friendly
The key to a thriving toddler being friendly is you teaching them. Your toddler needs to know that being friendly is the default. The way you can do that is to lead by example. If you are trying to teach your toddler how to be friendly, it means showing them what it means to be friendly. In all things you do with your toddler, you should be friendly. Your toddler should not see you angry or in a bad mood. By doing things this way, your toddler will know that this is the best way to behave. Ultimately, parents are responsible for what their toddlers do. A toddler most often takes after how the parents behave. A parent that acts a certain way will put that on his or her toddler. You can avoid any of this happening to you by leading by example.
Another thing you can do is to create rewards for being kind. Rewarding your toddler for being kind will ingrain that habit in him or her. This habit will also be built to repetition, so you have to keep doing it.
Saying Please and Thank You
Another vital part of being mannerly is saying please and thank you. These words should be two essentials that your toddler learns at an early age. A toddler should say please when asking for something and say thank you when receiving it. You should play a little game where you reminder toddler to say please when asking for anything. As long as you keep doing this, your toddler will get the message. Once you have ingrained this habit, you have to keep reinforcing it for a long time. It will take a while, but your toddler will eventually learn. The next step is to say thank you, as well. Your toddler needs to see you doing the things you are teaching. Otherwise, you might look like a hypocrite, which could prevent your toddler from learning in the long term. This lesson is one thing that will cause your teaching to be disrupted. Being seen as hypocritical is a death sentence to whatever you are trying to teach. Your toddler will ask while you aren’t doing it as well, and no answer will be good enough.
Apologizing When Wrong
One of the best things you can do to create an honest and trustworthy toddler is to make sure that they apologize when they are wrong. Your toddler needs to understand that there’s nothing wrong with apologizing for being wrong. This isn’t something that you aggressively push onto your toddler, but something that you explain calmly. Once your toddler understands that apologizing is okay, he or she will want to do it. You have to come and explain how important apologizing is in making friends and being a well-rounded adult. Once your toddler can see how successful they can be in approaching you and other people around, they will want it without persuasion. The key to all changes in your toddler is to make sure they want to do what you say. You have to tell them, and then you have to show them why it is right. By continuously doing this, your toddler will understand the message eventually.
Creating Good Behavioral Habits for Your Toddler
Ultimately, your success or failure will depend on if you can make all these changes into habits. Once you have gone your toddler to believe what you are teaching, you have to turn them into habits. Making them into a habit means repeating them every single day, helping your child understand what they need to do in each situation. If you can continue this over a long period, your child will understand. When this happens, you have finally turned these behavior patterns into habits. Your child will thank you in the long term for making these things habits. You also have the benefit of a better-behaved child. Your child’s behavior will then help you have an easier time as a parent. Parenting is difficult when your child causes a lot of issues. Imagine what your life and look like with a well-behaved child that has good manners. Your child will want to apologize when he or she does something wrong. This good behavior is the dream of many parents, and it can be yours too. Focusing on the right things will help you get there.