My toddler is very affectionate.
Is your toddler very affectionate? If so, here is a few different ideas you can use to find ways to gradually get your child not to be so affectionate. With the use of these simple tips to allow your child to be affectionate but only to a significant extent. Whether you create a game for your child to play, create a reward chart, or have a simple chat with your child about good body language towards others.
Model Good Boundaries
Explain to your child about boundaries with their family members, friends, classmates, teachers, as well as any physical boundaries with everyone your child encounters. Show them how they can still be close with their friends and family members, but they do not need to be overbearing with affection. Show them positive ways to show their family members and friends affection without overdoing it and scaring them away. Also, show your child the proper way they should greet their family members and friends in a different way than how they would greet you. Some children tend to hug and kiss visitors they see, which can be a problem. But once you set a boundary with your child about other people they encounter, they can display other ways to show affection without being overbearing.
If your Toddler is too clingy or overbearing, you should start by trying to create certain boundaries but without pushing away your child. Start by teaching them other ways of being affectionate without needing to be too touchy-feely with you or others your child encounters. If, by chance, your child does not understand these boundaries, try to explain to your child about the personal bubble concept. You should tell your child about the germs they will either spread or get on them if they are too touchy or overbearing to strangers or others they just met. Explain to your child they can give others a simple hug, and they can smile at others. They can also shake hands with others, but once they change their behavior and become overbearing, it is when your child has crossed the line.
Personal Bubble Concept
By teaching and showing your child the Personal Bubble Concept, they will begin to see how they do not like to be constantly clung to or having someone hovering over them while they play or relax. They will also begin to see how they have been treating you or others in your house, especially if you begin to act just like they did. Your child will slowly over time begin to change their attitude and body language after seeing the effects of the Personal Bubble Concept you both have done together. Create a game to explain to your child the meaning of a personal bubble; if your child touches your bubble, then they lose. If your child does not touch your bubble, then they receive a reward or a prize for following the game rules properly.
Teach Your Toddler the Scary Side of Being Too Affectionate
If your child is above a certain age and is still being too affectionate, try and explain a few important ideas to them. Like how dangerous being too affectionate can be when they get older if they continue to be too affectionate. Tell them about the numerous dangers within this world that could happen to them or what they could see in this world to those who continue to be overbearing or too affectionate.
Either your child will learn from you with everything you have sat down and told them, or they will come to find out themselves as they get older. Tell your child about the downside of being too affectionate. AS well as how other people might come into contact at some point in their lives will not like others who are affectionate. Explain to your child there are scary people in the world who do not understand the difference between being nice, being too affectionate can harm them.
Reassure Your Toddler About the Positive Ways to Be Affectionate
Not all affectionate children or gestures are terrible, but once your child starts to cross boundaries, then you might have a problem. But teaching your child how to be affectionate correctly, showing them when to be affectionate and when not to should be one of the key ideas you should think about first. Tell them there is a time and a place to be overly affectionate such as Birthdays, Family Gatherings, and Weddings. Give your child scenarios about times where they can be affectionate or overbearing, as well as when affection shouldn’t be present. Always remember to explain to your child hugs are a positive way of showing affection, but kisses and holding on to someone for a long period is a negative way of showing affection.
Always remember to stay positive if you feel your child does not understand the meaning of boundaries just yet, be persistent but not overbearing. Make a game out of it if you think a game might help your child understand boundaries with other people they encounter. Set up a reward chart for good personal boundary behavior, explain to your child the rules of the game as well as the reward part.
Your child will begin to see the real purpose of the reward chart you began doing for them as well as the purpose of the game you created for them. By staying positive while explaining to your child about boundaries and positive ways of being affectionate, your child will begin to see the effects of following your advice. With your reward chart, you can start as soon as you see signs of your child not grasping the concept of good personal boundaries with others they encounter, which will help your child understand even better.