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Toddler Hates Crowds? How to Help

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My toddler hates crowds.

Toddlers will often have something to fear. The fear brings hatred towards an object, an activity, or a person. A toddler’s fear of hatred may revolve around small crawling animals, walking out in the dark, or even strangers. The fear of crowds from a toddler should not be a surprise to a parent. Instead, any responsible mother would help her to take steps further to overcome it.

A toddler will have fear for crowds at the shopping balls, sports arenas, or busy restaurants. Mostly, you will know they have a fear of their behavior. For instance, a toddler will hold you close and not want to let you go. Sometimes, she will hold your hand or starts crying. Once you realize your toddler has such a challenge, the best way to do is to stop it. You need to give her courage and strength, and a reason not to fear. Your child may be hating the crowd just because he doesn’t like noise; many movements and turbulence characterize crowded places.

Here’s how to solve the challenge of a toddler who hates crowds:

Give him a task.

You need to make your child participate in the activities of the day whenever there is a crowd. Suppose you have a home party and you have invited 1oo people. It would be very unsafe and unhealthy for your child if he has been left as just an observer. Toddlers will always want to be busy, and unless you engage them, they will see the crowd as others. Get your toddler to sit at the entrance, of course, with a guardian, and she helps distribute welcome notes. The arrival of guests one after the other will see her get used to seeing many people. Finally, when she gets to the crowd, she will have no reason to hate or fear them.

Help your toddler feel secure

Your child has started to meet new faces and, worse, more many strangers. Seeing such crowds’ renders fear as your child feels insecure. Remember, by now, and he knows some bad people kidnap children. He might think the group is among them. Introducing your child, giving a chance to tell a few strangers his name or wave greetings, provides confidence. A secured child will not have an interest in hating crowds. Use a moment to squeeze her in your arms and whisper something which assures them security. Promise you will stay with them always. Furthermore, a toddler learns what you teach her.

Take baby steps

Crowds vary, there are big and small crowds. You can teach your child to love and get used to the crowd step by step. First, expose him to a small group, let’s say ten people, and make her feel comfortable with it. Increase the number of the crowd gradually, and by the time your child stands in large groups, she loves it. You are not done yet, spot several activities happening in your neighborhood, and attend with them. Some parties may not be healthy for the toddlers because of the hours or the subject. Your purpose is to expose them; once they interact shortly, you take them away.

Pile on the praise.

Toddlers love to be praised. They will want to activity over, and again once they realize it earns them praise. When you get home from a shopping mall or open markets, it is time to make a move. Tell her how much you are pleased when she interacts with strangers. Praise her for showing sureness and being orderly throughout the day. She will start developing calmness and put away temper, anger, or hatred. Sometimes you need to give them some rewards and state the reason. You should give them the reason why you are buying them. By so doing, a toddler will appreciate her behavior and reactions towards crowds.

Talk about crowds regularly.

Your child is a product of what you feed them. Teach them love, and they will express it confidently. Tell them how a neighbor is a thief, and they will never trust them. One way of making your toddler not to hate crowds is telling her more about them. Begin by the masses in your church. Let her feel comfortable in the hands of your friends and or your relatives who she might not know. Once you get back home, discuss with her the good moments you shared with others in the church. You will notice when it is time for church, she will ask you about the crowd- whether today you will have nice moments too.

Plan, and make toddler part

Your toddler will love to meet the people you engaged him in planning. Tell him how you want to go to a soccer arena on the weekend. Remind him from Monday to Friday, and by the time the D-day comes, he will be psychologically prepared. Discuss the composition of the crowd and how he will benefit from the experience. Toddlers will change their attitude once they have something to benefit from. If it is a football match, mention the players and how skillful they are, and they can be like them.


Hatred is not a permanent trait, nor is it healthy. Teaching your child how hatred is a bad character trait will have them want to stop it. Do not let your child watch violent movies, mostly when crowds are involved. Such will develop fear and hatred. Introducing a toddler to large groups and frequently making visits might change their perceptions. A parent should consider if the toddler had torment with the crowd, which causes fear whenever exposed to any.

Nevertheless, it is the responsibility of a parent, a guardian, or a caregiver to draw a line between a child and the crowd. The crowd may be composed of evil-minded people and making your child trust everyone is risking their safety. A clear line between to what extent they should go in loving strangers needs to be identified. Your toddler, by the age of 3years, should be aware of what crowd is good for her.

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