Relationships with sons can be tricky. One minute they can’t wait to share every detail about their lives with us, then the next, radio silence.
If your son is shutting down, it can feel as though you’ve lost them forever. However, this is just a normal part of growing up.
My teenage son stopped talking to me.
Though it’s natural to a teen, watching your son give you the silent treatment can be challenging. While their shutting down doesn’t have anything to do with you, it still hurts.
Understand that as your teen grows up, they’ll need to pull away from their parents more. Though you may want to keep your close relationship, giving your son space is what he needs right now.
While most parents enjoy hearing the thrilling details of their children’s lives, your son may stop sharing. Over time, teenagers often start sharing their private thoughts with close friends. While this may be offensive to you at first, it’s nothing to take personally.
Why did my son stop talking to me?
Teenagers experience a lot of ups and downs. In addition to dealing with hormonal changes, teens don’t always know how to feel when speaking with their parents.
While a silent son can be aggravating, understand that it’s not forever. Just because your teen clams up doesn’t mean that you’ll never be close again.
Teenagers need space to process their emotions. This may play out with them, distancing themselves from you. During this soul searching period, they are often looking for a way to establish their identity.
Understand that your son pulling away from you, is part of adolescence. Eventually, as they come into their own, they’ll open up again.
How can I get my son to talk to me again?
Your son may not feel comfortable communicating with you. Teenagers often feel safest speaking with their peers as they view you as their parent.
Being patient is the best way to get your son to talk to you again. Try to have meals together and engage in activities when you can. Over time, your son will be able to better balance spending time with their friends and speaking with you.
Signs to watch out for:
While some closing off is normal for teenagers, there are certain signs that you should watch out for. In some situations, shutting down can be a symptom of a larger problem.
If you’re worried that your teen is in danger, analyze their current behaviors. Pay attention to their mood changes as well as their academic performance. If you notice that your son is constantly sad and isn’t doing well in school, this is cause for alarm.
These concerning signs can indicate that your son is in trouble and needs help. Make sure their newfound silence isn’t a cry for help.
How can I support a teen who doesn’t want to talk?
In addition to watching out for warning signs, parents can support their sons by being there. Eventually, your child will be ready to talk, so it’s important to be there when they are.
Whether you think your teen is in trouble or not, try to check-in with them throughout the day. Send regular text messages or make calls to make sure your teen is doing well. If your teen doesn’t seem to be improving, make sure they know they can always reach out when they need to.
Many teenagers are afraid to tell their parents the truth for fear of judgment. Emphasize the fact that your home is a safe space for them to be honest about their struggles.
Relationships with teenage children aren’t always the easiest for parents to navigate. While they have their ups and downs, always remember that your child isn’t doing this to hurt you.
If your son isn’t talking to you anymore, give them the space they need to grow up. Make sure he knows you’re there for him and that you’ll always love him.