It’s natural to feel shock and disappointment when finding out your teen daughter is pregnant. While you may want to get angry, this isn’t a helpful response.
There’s no turning back time; your daughter is already pregnant. The best course of action is to figure out what happens now.
How do I respond to my daughter’s pregnancy?
If your teenage daughter tells you she’s pregnant, chances are she’s hoping you’ll be a shoulder to lean on. Teenage pregnancy isn’t something you or your daughter were expecting. Despite this, you can’t ignore reality.
Whatever you’re feeling in the moment, resist the urge to get angry. While the surprising news is definitely life-changing, it isn’t life-ruining. This new development in your daughter’s life is happening, whether you’re angry or not.
For this reason, it’s best if parents can simply listen to their daughters. As she explains the situation, it’s important to be as judgment-free as possible. Once she explains herself, she can take the necessary steps to make the right decision.
What is my teenager feeling?
With a baby on the way, your teenager is likely to feel a wide range of emotions. Whether she’s feeling embarrassment, sadness, or guilt, your teen is likely unsure of what to do.
As she tells you about her pregnancy, she may worry that you’re upset with her. She may even think that you’ll stop loving her.
Calm your daughter’s fears by reassuring her that you still love her. Though this unexpected news is tough, it won’t change the way you feel about her. Give your daughter space and resources to make the best decision for herself and the baby.
How do I prepare my teen for the future?
As you help your daughter make the right decision, she should know her options. In some states, parents must give their consent for an abortion. Likewise, parental consent may also be necessary for adoption.
If your teen decides to continue with the pregnancy, she needs to prepare for her future. In addition to becoming a mother, your teen must decide how to proceed with school, her relationship, and her career. Help your daughter understand that getting pregnant isn’t going to ruin her life. Many people learn to make young motherhood work, and she can too.
How can I help my pregnant teenage daughter?
Help your teen prepare for the coming months ahead by ensuring she has proper medical care. Likewise, help her stick to a healthy diet with prenatal vitamins as she cares for her child.
In addition to physically preparing her for motherhood, don’t ignore the challenges she’s facing. Explain to her that in the coming months, she’ll experience several challenges. Going over common tension points will help her navigate these future challenges.
Help your teen plan for the costs of her pregnancy. A common issue pregnant teenagers face is the cost of raising a child. Consider maternity clothing, baby items, health insurance, and more. Work with your daughter to come up with a plan for all of these expenses.
Talking to your teen’s baby’s father
As your teenage daughter learns she’s pregnant, you may wonder where the father is in all this. If your teen is dating the father, it may be helpful to include him in some of your pregnancy preparations. Chances are the father may commit to being a responsible parent and may even plan for a life with our daughter.
On the other hand, your daughter may not have a future with the baby’s father. If you do get in contact with him, ask him about his plans. Learn whether or not he has a job, wants a family, or wants to be with your daughter. Hashing out these details now will hopefully save your daughter more heartache down the road.
There’s no easy way to deal with teenage pregnancy. As your daughter shares this life-changing news with you, be there to support her every step of the way.