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My Teenage Daughter Has No Friends

Some teenagers are introverts who don’t need or want a busy social life. Others are sociable but have times when they prefer to be alone. If your teenage daughter doesn’t have any friends, you should try to figure out why.

There are various reasons your daughter doesn’t seem to have friends.

The other kids don’t like her. Teenagers can be cruel, and there might be something about your daughter that makes other teens cut her off socially. She might be overweight, shy, bad at sports, nerdy or just a little eccentric. She might have a disability. Anything could cause kids to treat her unfairly.

She doesn’t like them. The other teens might have tried to make friends with her and discovered she was unfriendly. Maybe she puts them down, makes nasty remarks about them, or acts like she’s better than they are. Some teenage girls do this to protect themselves if they feel nobody likes them. It’s a way of rejecting people before they reject her.

You don’t know which one it is, but how can you find out? Chances are your teenage daughter isn’t talking to you about her problems at school.

Does She Seem Happy Otherwise?

Does your daughter seem happy at home? Does she act normal around you and her siblings? Does she make good emotional connections with family members and family friends? If she does, then she’s probably not depressed or withdrawn. She just hasn’t been able to make those same connections with kids at school.

It’s troubling to know your daughter doesn’t have friends. You know her as this sweet, funny, kindhearted person who deserves appreciation. Why can’t those kids take the time to get to know her?

Talk to Your Daughter

You need to know what’s happening. Talk to your daughter about what’s happening at school. Start by asking if she wants to invite any of her classmates or kids in the neighborhood over to play or study together.

If she criticizes the others and calls them mean, ask her what she means. Get specifics. You need to know if she’s being bullied. If she says they ignore her, ask what happens when she tries to talk to them. Ask her if she’s friendly or rude herself.
This is a sensitive area. Go slowly. She may not be willing to talk if she thinks you’re going to blame her.

If you think she’s being bullied, get the details. You may have to involve the school.

Is There Anything You Can Do?

If she’s too shy to make friends, give her some tips. Teach her how to approach people.

How are your daughter’s social skills? Watch how she interacts with people. If she’s a nonstop conversation hog or responds to everything with one-word answers, teach her to be a better conversationalist.

Help her focus on activities and hobbies away from school. Does she like sports or board games or cooking? Help her find an outside club or classes where she can meet new people with similar interests. Sometimes, that’s all it takes.

Volunteering and community work are great ways to interact with people without the pressure of making friends. Get your daughter involved in these activities. They will boost her self-esteem and give her a chance to develop better social skills.

Is there someone in the neighborhood she seems to like? Encourage that friendship. Some kids can’t make friends at school, but can have good relationships with people in other settings.

Show Her Your Support

The best thing you can do for your teenage daughter is show her your support. Boost her self-esteem. Make it clear you think she’s terrific. With some time and practice, she can learn to develop connections with people.

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