My Son Is Mad at Me for Circumcising Him

Most parents would never hesitate to have their infant sons circumcised because of the accompanying health benefits. Still, many of them also confess to having to defend their actions because their kids do not support the idea. Although circumcision is not a necessary procedure, medical research says it facilitates good hygiene for your child. Later, when he encounters sexual partners, this procedure protects him and his partner, such that they minimize cases of cervical cancer. Studies indicate that female sexual partners are more likely to contract cancer from uncircumcised male partners due to the retention of moisture and germs in the folds of the foreskin. Experts also say that there is an over 60% drop in heterosexual HIV, HPV, and other viral transmissions in circumcised males.

Some of the Likely Reasons He Is Upset

Your son could be upset that his body appears different than when he was born and that you did it without his consent. Maybe he thinks it would have been better had you waited until he was older to have a say. Despite the perfect intentions, he may think yours was from a selfish standpoint. But did you also know that your son’s anger could be emanating from his peers?

Depending on their background, they may view circumcision as a cruel procedure, likening it to female genital mutilation and other cruel cultural practices.

Such false information can make your son sad, unhappy, and thinking you never loved him in the first place. His friends could have told him that an amazing sexual feeling has been taken away from him as a result. He doesn’t know that he could still be teased by his other circumcised peers elsewhere to remain uncut. So whichever the case, he can’t win.

Why Your Son Should Thank You for the Cut

A poll carried out among several women on whether they prefer Cut or uncut males brings the point home. Most of them insist that uncircumcised sexual experience is like that horrid sausage with no feeling, just waiting to pop. Others complained of the bad smells that come out of the fold, not the best snack for oral, and becoming a deal-breaker. Of course, a few others saw no difference between the two and insisted uncut comes tops because it’s more sensitive, and they feel everything while in bed.

Here Is Why Pediatricians Think Your Son Is Better Off with the Cut

The recent years have seen The American Academy of Pediatrics encourage parents to have their infant sons circumcised. The procedure is usually quick and painless and carries with it a lifetime of health benefits for your child. Mostly, experts say that the accompanying pros outweigh the risks, if any. For example, your infant son gets immediate benefits in reducing prevalent infections such as urinary tract infections as soon as they get the Cut. It is so crucial during the first year of his life when they frequently use diapers. But later on, your child has a reduced chance of getting infected with any of the full range of sexually transmitted diseases. The absence of the foreskin folds means no dirt, and no moisture hides in there. It eventually protects females from contracting cervical cancer.

Addressing the Issue with Your Son Could Iron Out the Hurt

Sometimes the upset may run so deep that it leads to mental health issues, mostly because your child does not understand your decision’s motivation. But there is always a way out of the whole debacle. First, gently talk to him about the reasons to have him get the Cut. Let him know you meant all the best for him then and even now. You can also ask him why he is against the practice. Could it be that he is learning about some material that discourages circumcision? If not peer influence, maybe he still resents the fact that you never waited for his consent. Reasons may vary, but you should also understand his concerns.

Why You Should Schedule a Few Sessions With a Therapist 

If he still feels upset even after the talk, therapy can be another tool to help all of you come to some level of understanding. Schedule an appointment with an experienced counselor who can educate your child on the reasons for circumcision. And even if he still thinks the practice is wrong, he can know from a professional perspective that you meant well.