No one enjoys listening to yelling, but it often seems that kids enjoy doing it. While we usually want to respond when someone yells at us, parents need to stay calm and discipline their children.
Yelling children can be nerve-wracking to deal with, but you can keep your calm and get through this.
How Do I Respond When My Child Yells at Me?
Above all else, try to keep your calm when your child yells at you. It’s natural to feel your blood boil when you’re the one your kid is yelling at. Despite this, don’t let them get under your skin.
Yelling can cause our tension to rise and typically brings about anxiety. Kids can latch onto this and may yell to force their parents to give into them. This is why it’s so important that you stay calm.
Before you react when your child yells at you, try pausing. Taking a second to pause before reacting will give you a chance to regain your composure.
When Children Yell at Parents
At the end of the day, yelling is disrespectful. Even if your child is trying to get a point across, there are better ways to do this. Don’t let your child continue to yell at you.
Though it’s easy to ignore or avoid this behavior, don’t.
Tell your child that yelling isn’t acceptable in the house. Teach them communication alternatives that are more effective in getting the point across. Instead of raising their voice, tell them to speak with intention.
If they’re afraid others aren’t listening to them, teach them how to get others’ attention. In emergency situations, yelling is perfectly fine. However, when indoors or talking with family or friends, it’s best to use an indoor voice.
Teaching Kids About Their “Inside Voice”
Teaching your child to use their indoor voice is easier said than done. While kids may want to talk louder, using their “outside” voice indoors isn’t necessary.
Parents can introduce the idea of an inside voice by modeling speaking softly to their kids. For example, parents can demonstrate soft speaking when talking to another family member or calling someone on the phone. While there may be times when you use a louder voice, make sure they understand screaming and yelling isn’t okay.
Decoding Your Child’s Yelling
Even as your child learns to stop yelling to communicate, there’s more to this behavior than meets the eye. If you are able to decode their behavior, you’ll be able to better address their yelling.
Consider what your child is experiencing. Children often use yelling to deflect feelings of discomfort. Oftentimes, they can’t put their inner feelings into appropriate words, so they yell.
While you may not like your child’s constant yelling, it’s important to empathize with them. Saying something like “I know it’s unfair” or “You may not feel happy” will help your child feel understood. By relating to their experiences, you’ll open the door to teach them better ways to communicate.
As you work to decode your child’s behavior, consider other factors like the time. If your child is hungry, thirsty, or has low blood sugar, they may act out by yelling.
Connecting With Your Child
While your child’s yelling may be off-putting, this can also be a sign that they need connection. Many kids act out when they are in need of parental support. If your child is yelling, it may be that they need your affection.
Parents should work to look past dissatisfactory behavior to see what their child is going through. Moving past their tone or attitude and giving them a hug or cuddle time may be just the solution.
Take the time to discipline your child, analyze their behavior, and react calmly. Use these strategies to better understand your child’s behavior as you try to connect with them.