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5 Ways to Test If Your Toddler Leads or Follows

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Is my toddler a leader or a follower?

Growing up, we all start to fall into categories. There are a large number of groups we as people learn, but a major one is a leader or follower. Some toddlers tend to fall into the field of followers. If a toddler is less impressionable, they might be a leader. Your toddler simply wants to fit in and be a part of the crowd. Usually, toddlers will follow whoever is popular by repeating what is done. There are, however, toddlers who tend to lead, often by doing their own thing and having a unique style.

There are several ways to tell if your toddler is a leader or follower:

How does your toddler respond to peer pressure?

Peer pressure is something much deal with at some point in life. Some only deal with it in childhood, while others in their adult life. An easy way to tell if your child is a leader or follower is peer pressure. It is how well the child can deal with peer pressure when it is brought up. Whether the child falls prey to it or raises above it, peer pressure truly helps separate leaders from followers. It is especially hard when done by older children.

Some toddlers wish to be “cool” at their young age; just like adults, toddlers like to fit in.  Being a part of an older crowd is a quick way to be popular. Though, going such a route will have peer pressure. It is hard to say no to peers, whether the same age or if the peers are older. If your child quickly falls into peer pressure, the child may be a follower. Though, if your child does it out of interest alone, the child may be a leader. If your child simply says no, the child is a leader. Falling for peer pressure is the most common way to show leaders and followers.

Is your toddler trendy?

Trends are a big part of society. Many people easily go for it while others only occasionally go for it. Trending is another way to see if your child is a leader or follower. Find out how easily your child falls into trends. An easy way to find out is their reaction to a trend. See how your child feels about what is popular in society or your area. Find out if your child truly cares about the trends or is indifferent.

If your child truly enjoys the trend for what it is, then your child could be a leader. If your child is indifferent or hates the trends, not participating at all, your child is a leader. However, if your child says one thing and does another because of peers, your child follows. If the only factor is their peers are doing it, and your child does it, then a follower. Though similar to peer pressure, there may be no direct encouragement from peers. Your child could be doing this without being a vocal influence and just want to fit in. Doing so is another clear sign of a follower.

Does your toddler have morals?

Our morals are an easy way to define who we are. As we grow older, we develop our morals. Children, even at a young age, have their morals. Try to explain to your child what their ideas of right and wrong are. Once you figure the morals of your child, ask your child more. Ask your child where such a train of thinking came from. Ask if their morals are something done because of someone else or by personal ideas. If your child thinks a certain way from peers, your child is a follower.

If your child morals from personal opinion, then your child is a leader. A major way to test their morality is when it is with another opinion. Either by an adult or a peer, test to see if the child will change their view. It could be because your child has an open mind. If the case is such, your child could still be a leader. If not much critical thinking is done, your child could be a follower. Your child could be changing opinions just to please the other party.

Is your toddler a liar?

Both toddlers and adults have told lies before. Many lie for several reasons. However, toddlers may lie to fit in. When in a crowd, toddlers tend to exaggerate the truth. Toddlers like to tell stories to other people to impress them. The stories toddlers tell could be completely false or half right. A sign such as telling stories is a sign of following. Though, it only applies if the child tells a story for approval.

It is a big definite sign of following if the lie is the opposite of the child. Such as if the child says milk is uncool and boring when the child loves it. Another example is if your child lies about being tough. Such as if the child says he or she fights snake, when afraid to go near one. Lying to a popular group for fame is an easy sign of the following. If your child is honest and speaks the truth, your child is a leader.

Is your toddler a poser?

Another huge way to see if your child is a leader or follower is being true. Is your toddler his/her authentic self? You know the answer deep down.

Being “true” means so much more than just lying. We are referencing a complete personality change.  Does your toddler get rid of things she likes? Is your son trying things he hates just to be accepted at daycare?

To be a leader in life, your toddler must be themselves. If your toddlers easily rids away whom he or she is too easily, your child is a follower. If it is because your child simply wants to change just because your child may be a leader, if it is to fit in or impress other people, your child is a follower.

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