Is My Toddler a Narcissist? When to Worry

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Is My Toddler a Narcissist?

Narcissism in children, in a toddler, can it be a thing? Well, in these times, it seems like just about anything is possible! When you have such questions come to your mind, you mustn’t ignore them. If you have been questioning if your toddler is narcissistic, you should explore the possibility. That way, you can gain knowledge and power to have a more positive outcome for the development of your child.

So, together, let’s explore the traits and even some tips on how to handle a narcissistic toddler.

Opportunistic behavior

It is a wonderful thing to raise kids that are confident enough to go out and get what they want. On the other hand, there is an extreme, as if other people in the process do not matter. There is an extreme tunnel vision to get what one wants when narcissism is at hand.

That tunnel vision seems to block other traits (as far as being respectful of people) while reaching goals. There is also no remorse for damaging people on the way. So, if your child tends to always go after what they want, never feeling bad about who they hurt in the process, narcissism could be brewing under the surface.

Better than the rest

It is a wonderful thing to know your worth. Having children with a strong mind who understand their value is priceless. However, that needs to be balanced with seeing other people as important and needed in this world.

One very telling sign of a narcissist is that they think they are the most important, ALWAYS. No matter what environment they find themselves in, they automatically think of themselves as the best.

Everyone else tends to be under them. It is a snooty arrogance that most people can feel from a mile away.

A strong sense of entitlement

Entitlement Stinks. Nobody likes to be around people with a very strong sense of entitlement. If your little one seems to be entitled to everything, then you may have a little narcissist on your hand.

At a certain age, we know that kids are very self-focused, that is normal. As children grow, it should be normal for them to become aware of others—naturally, their sense of entitlement shifts to thinking of other people.

If a sense of entitlement seems to be at an abnormal level for your child, then you want to keep an eye on out. You can have a sense of concern if you notice that the sense of entitlement only gets worse as your child grows up.

Expects admiration at all times

It’s no doubt that we all need affirmation and admiration from time to time. The needs of a narcissist are extraordinary. It is almost like they have a bottomless pit of need to be admired at all times.

If you see this trait constantly growing in your toddler( as he or she grows), you may have something to worry about.

At this current stage, if you notice an undying need for admiration and attention, start teaching your child about their value. Teach your toddler that they are still valuable, even if attention is not being directed at them.

Allow your attention to be turned to other individuals in their presence. They are showing that other people need attention as well.

Refuses to show gratitude

While there is a sense of strong entitlement ever-growing, the habit of showing gratitude, it’s not a thing. Showing gratitude is just not something that they do. If your toddler is morphing into a little human being that can never be grateful, you want to start shaping that now.

The last thing you would want is for your child to walk around expecting goodness from people, but never being able to show thankfulness for it

Their expectation of everyone is too high

Narcissists tend to have very high expectations of themselves, but at the same time, show themselves a lot of grace. However, dealing with people on the outside is a whole other story. They keep people to a high standard at all times. There is no room for failure.

If people fail their expectations, it seems to shatter their world. Children have to understand that everyone fails everyone at some point. It is not the end of the world when that happens.

A toddler with a tendency to exaggerate, when here she doesn’t get what they want, needs shaping. It would be in that child’s best interest to understand the disappointment and to gracefully learn to accept it.

Maintaining friendship is a great challenge

Well, that is to be expected when the expectations of people are too high. Since narcissists perceive failure and disappointment from people so deeply, it’s hard for them to maintain relationships.

In a lot of cases, it is easier for the narcissist to let go of any person instead of working it out. They have learned a sense of emotional disconnect, which causes them to disconnect from people they care about.

Watching for this in your toddler would be watching how they relate to you. If there is a long-term emotional disconnect from you, that could be something to worry about later in life. Children are the most forgiving and can bounce back pretty quickly. However, If you notice there’s rarely a bounce back and a reconnection, you may want to cultivate that with your child.

Empathy is utterly missing

We should be able to relate to one another. We should be able to feel and understand other people’s pain. When hearing the stories of others, we put ourselves in their shoes.

Narcissists don’t do that. It’s like they can’t connect emotionally to what other people go through. Some things could be problematic, which will cause any person great pain. All they can see is why that person isn’t strong enough. Or what that person can do to make this situation better even if things are out of their control.

Toddlers are sensitive to human beings. They can easily pick up the vibe of other people. You can even see their expression change to compassion when someone is crying. Look for ongoing signs of your toddler being able to process some sort of empathy.