Help! I Don’t Love My Baby.

Pregnancy can be hard. The amount of stress and energy a mother has to go through just to get through the day can be challenging. And sometimes, being a mother is not for everyone. Because caring for a child for nine months is a full- time job. And because it’s a full-time job, it becomes harder and harder to balance everyday life. Becoming pregnant in many eyes is considered the most beautiful thing in the world. But for some people, it doesn’t always seem that way. Always remember that everyone is different and everyone’s body is different. Another mother can experience one thing, and you can experience another.

But don’t let that discourage you.

Some mothers go through an entire pregnancy without any stressful symptoms. For instance, one of the many common symptoms of early pregnancy is morning sickness. There have been many cases where mothers have claimed they didn’t experience morning sickness at all. But you also have to understand is, moral support also plays a part in everything. If you’re by yourself with no one to lean on, then it’s very likely that you’re not going to grasp the experience fully especially, if it’s your first time being pregnant.

But you don’t have to be alone.

There are plenty of support groups out there that can help support mothers who can relate to what you are feeling. You want to be able to look back on your experiences, whether it be the first time your baby kicked or the first time you felt your baby move in your womb because pregnancy is a beautiful thing.

1. Seek Help

Remember, it’s always important to seek help when you feel like something is wrong. Do not let the negativity of society discourage you from getting the help that you need because society can be cruel and hurtful sometimes. Do not let it dictate how you feel, either. Your health and your baby’s health is the most important.

Also, be mindful and take into consideration the loved ones around you because family and friends are very important. Especially if you don’t have a partner, the family, and friends that love you are the ones that are going to be there for you when you need them. This is not an easy journey. So if you can have some there to support you, every step of the way is a step in the right direction.

2. Motherhood Will Change You

It is not an understatement that motherhood will change you. Because when you become a mother, you cannot continue as the same person you once was. Because now you do not only have to take care of yourself, but you have to take care of your baby as well. So now there’s one additional human life that you have to worry about other than yourself. The best thing you can do is mentally prepare yourself before and during pregnancy. Reading books on the topic of talking to a professional can be very beneficial.

3. The Bond

It’s safe to say that you may not necessarily bond with your baby immediately. Before all the mothers out there, please do not get discouraged. Just because you didn’t bond with your child immediately, doesn’t mean that you do not love them. Keep in mind that for some people, it does take time for you to form a connection with your baby. For some mother’s there’s an instant connection, and for others, it is not.

4. The Pressure

The one thing mothers need to understand is that feeling guilty is normal. Deep down, you want to be able to love your baby or at least feel like you love your baby. And if you don’t feel that way, then you are a bad mother. That is not true. Don’t ever pressure yourself into feeling anything more than you do at the moment. Motherhood isn’t easy. And nobody is expecting you to get it right away. It will take time and a lot of patience but trust and believe you will get there. No matter what happens, the bonding will grow, and emotionally, you will too.

5. Postpartum

Postpartum is very common among mothers. It can hit you so fast you didn’t even see it coming. About 10% of moms with newborns suffer from postpartum. But what’s important is knowing the signs of it. Usually, postpartum last about a few days to a week or two after your baby is born.

Signs and symptoms of postpartum include:

  • Mood swings
  • Anxiety
  • Sadness
  • Crying
  • Feeling overwhelmed
  • Appetite problems
  • Trouble sleeping
  • Reduced concentration
  • Irritability

Conclusion

Suppose you are feeling depressed after giving birth. Please keep in mind that this is completely normal. It might seem embarrassing to admit at first, but there is nothing to be ashamed of. Remember, if you start to notice any symptoms listed above, call your doctor and schedule an appointment especially, if symptoms don’t get better after two weeks. As a mother, you have a lot of responsibilities, and one of them includes taking care of yourself. Remember, you cannot take care of your baby without taking care of yourself first.

It might not be easy at first, but at the end of the day, you have to do what’s best for you and your baby. And if that means scheduling appointments to see your doctor, then so be it. Because talking to someone is the best form of help. Some people think that they’re strong enough to handle situations like this on their own, but in reality, that can only get you so far. Understand that getting the help that you need from a professional is far more rewarding in the end.