Eventually, after becoming a mother, you will have a friend or family member that will land themselves in the hospital for some reason or another, and you will not have a babysitter. This means you have to take the baby with you for a visit to the hospital. This is not your ideal visit. You would rather do anything else under the sun. You would rather walk on hot coals or run through the mall naked, I am sure, but this is your task to conquer, so let’s figure it out together. When the time comes, you need to be prepared. Your friend or family member is in hospital, and they need you. You can not bail on them, so read on a bit and see what this article has to offer.
1. Always Bring Food & Toys
The main issue is keeping a child quiet in that environment mostly. Many mothers think about germs, but children encounter germs in places such as the supermarket just the same. So to try to keep a child quiet, you have to occupy them. Food and toys are great items to bring along that will take up large slots of time while you are in a hospital room with a loved one.
You can feed a child while still having a conversation. You never have to stop talking while feeding them. They will eat and get full and more than likely be ready for a nap. This will buy you a few more minutes to visit with your loved one. After they wake up, make sure that they are clean and see if your baby would like to play a little. This will take up some more time. Babies are generally happy when they wake up because they are well-rested.
2. Do Not Stay In One Place
It is probably an instinct to try to sit your child in one place and try to keep them there to minimize the amount of movement in the room. This will only make your child more agitated, especially if they are a child that is rather active regularly anyway. You should start by bouncing them on your knee softly first. You can pace around the room. You can try holding their hand and walking them back and forth if they are of walking age. You can do anything around the room that does not make too much noise or bother the patient. Make sure that the patient is not too sick. This will be up to your discretion, but the point is not to restrict your child so much that he or she is agitated more. You want them to feel that they have a little bit of freedom.
3. Do Not Ignore Your Baby
You want to pay attention to the patient that you have come to visit, but meanwhile, do not pay so much attention to the patient that you forget to pay any attention to your child. This will agitate them for sure, even if it is just small smiles or waves occasionally. You can reach down to tickle your baby or give hugs and kisses. Just make sure to give eye contact and even a verbal sentence or two now and again. Your baby will love it, and it will calm them for much longer because they will know that they have some of your attention, even if not all of it, and they will settle for that until they can get all of you back. When you leave, they will regain total mommy control.
4. Do Not Over Stay Your Welcome
You may have to resist the urge to want to stay for hours in this situation no matter how sick your loved one is or how great the visit is going. Remember that you have a baby with you. There is only so long that any of these tricks are going to work. They will eventually want to leave and go home and be in their own space. You do not still want to be there when that happens. When it does happen, there will probably be no reset button. Therefore your best bet would be to be already gone when they tired.
Children have a short attention span. You will have bypassed that time by the time you walk in the door, but with these tips and tricks, you might get in another 45 minutes to an hour. Do not push your luck with much past that. Take what you can get and promise your loved one you will return another day. Try to find a sitter so that you can stay longer on your next visit.
5. Allow Your Child To Do This On Several Occasions
Many mothers do not even feel that you should take a child to the hospital with you, and that is up for debate, but sometimes you may not have much choice. If you have to and they are not used to it, you have a bigger problem. It is recommended that you get them acclimated to the situation. Take them on several occasions, just like with church. Take them each Sunday.
Do not allow them to go to “baby church.” If you send them to “baby church” when it comes time for them to join regular service, they will never be able to sit still. They will not know what to do. They are not used to the practices. The same goes for the hospital. It will be hard for them to sit in a tight space, sit still for a long period, and function. Get them in the habit of visiting, and you will be able to take them with you if you practice with them. Over time your child will develop the skills to be able to perform in that setting.
Yes, this seems easy enough. Of course, this is just in theory. You will run into a few snags during the actual event possible, but it will get easier and easier each time. You and your child will get comfortable with the process. Try doing the following things:
- Always Bring Food & Toys
- Do Not Stay In One Place
- Do Not Ignore Your Baby
- Do Not Over Stay Your Welcome
- Allow Your Child To Do This On Several Occasions
If you follow these suggestions, the transition from a fussy baby at the hospital to a nice little sweetheart will be much easier. You will find yourself not dreading those visits nearly as much as you have in the past.