It’s perfectly normal for babies to be angry. Newborns cry out of rage when they are hungry, and you didn’t get the bottle quick enough.
All babies cry when they are sick, tired, or in pain, even when they are hungry, have a bad diaper, or want to be held. Then, there are those babies that seem moody or negative an awful lot. They are angry.
Temper tantrum’s usually don’t start until 12 to 18 months. If your baby seems to be throwing one early, make sure there’s not a dirty diaper, he’s hungry or sick. If all is good, be careful how you react. Remain calm because babies can tell if you get agitated, and he might cry even harder.
You should respond quickly to the baby’s needs, but you might need to get creative when soothing him.
If there are frequent outbursts, you might need to consult your doctor and rule out a medical problem.
Some babies take minor hassles with a grain of salt, while others must throw a tantrum. It’s all about your baby’s personality. Just because something makes him angry today, might be a different story next time.
Around 6 to 12 months, the baby will start to understand cause and effect. He has some control over his behavior. It’s a great time to begin setting gentle limits that will form the basis of your child’s positive behavior as he grows.
Things That Can Help
1. Give voice to her out of whack emotions. Let her know that you understand it is a bad situation, and just by your soothing voice, she might calm down.
2. Respond to needs. Don’t worry about spoiling the baby. It’s OK to show love, especially if she’s just tired and needs a nap.
3. Distractions are good. Offer a toy or maybe a book. Sometimes showing them something different will make them forget about what was so horrible.
4. Prevent the problem. Don’t let her hunger get out of control. Keep her fed and changed so she won’t throw a fit. If she’s crying for something off-limits, keep it out of her sight, if possible.
5. Read his cues. If his fits are repetitive due to a certain time or you say a pattern, remember what comes next and be prepared. Maybe at these times, he needs to be in his bouncy and watching a movie.
6. Being positive always helps. Don’t get upset and raise your voice. The baby will just cry harder. Instead, focus on how great he does things and praise him for it.
Children who experience enormous stressful situations at a very young age, such as abuse or neglect, have difficulty with anger due to their normal emotional development being disrupted.
Why Is The Baby Angry?
- He wants something he can’t reach. Maybe he sees a toy that you put on the counter earlier and didn’t realize. He’s on the floor and has spotted it but just can’t make it come to him.
- He is crying for no apparent reason. If you have checked that he’s not hungry or the diaper is still clean, but he is still screaming, maybe he’s just needy. Some babies are needier than others.
- About to hit that new milestone. Did he get mad because he just can’t figure it out or hasn’t mastered it yet? That’s completely normal; it will pass as soon as he has figured it all out.
- He is arching the back. Sometimes if he’s in severe pain, he will tense up and arch his back. If you have already checked that everything is good with him, that’s a sure sign of a tantrum.
- Overly tired. They say that babies cry to express an unmet need. He usually shows you when he didn’t get his nap out by rubbing his eyes or yawning, but this time he is communicating differently, frustration and anger.
High Needs Baby
The common characteristics of a high needs baby are constant crying, unpredictable sleep/feeding patterns, needs extra attention, restlessness, easily overstimulated by movement or noise, and resists swaddling. These babies are extremely separation sensitive. Also, high needs babies know which persons they can trust to meet their needs, and might throw a big fit with someone new taking care of them.
There’s no reason why some babies are more sensitive. They just need more attention and love. Environment and parenting highly influence the baby’s development from fussy to a happy, calm, and thriving child.
Baby Remembers When Others Get Angry
New research shows that babies don’t easily forget seeing adults get angry, even if the anger is directed at someone else.
So, be mindful of how you act in front of your baby. He’s very tuned in on other people’s anger, and that emotion is very powerful.
I’m not sure how this will work on a baby, but you can start teaching your child now, and he can use it when he grows older. It’s the golden rule for communicating when you are upset. Believe it or not, it will even work on your spouse or stubborn teens.
The Fast-Food Rule says: when you are talking to someone angry, repeat their feelings first before you respond.
The reason it’s the Fast-Food Rule is that when you go to a drive-thru, she asks if she can help you, then you give your order. Immediately, she repeats your order so that she can make sure that she heard everything correctly. She then takes her turn and tells you the amount you owe.
As you know, when people are upset, they are terrible listeners. Open minds close fast. Once we know that our feelings have been acknowledged, our minds can open back up. We can listen to the other person so much better.
Remember, when you repeat what the other person says, it’s not the words that are important, but the tone of voice that they are repeated in.
Some parents believe that the Fast-Food Rule is the best parenting skill available.